In times of difficulty sometimes things take on new meaning. In my Spiritual Practices class I was struck by a new understanding of hospitality. When things get difficult and scary, when things don’t seem to be going my way the need for hospitality just increases. In times of strife hospitality can be expressed by giving people, (the ‘other’ side), the benefit of the doubt.
Nothing can be harder when I cannot imagine how ‘they’ can think that. Nothing can be harder when I know ‘they’ have got it all wrong. Nothing can be harder when I have to wonder ‘how dare they.’ But I’m sure that if I bring curiosity into the situation and wonder, instead of declaring, then perhaps I can be more hospitable to those who seem to think differently.
We are all such unique individuals. The process of individuation by which we learn and understand what makes us not only special but valuable to others can get lost in the individualism that sees ‘me’ as the only important being. In truth, the interconnectedness that this time has made so clear, offers up the importance of the uniqueness of each of us that is manifested in the interdependence that makes our lives.
Sometimes that very interdependence, that being needed, can be felt as restrictive, because interconnection requires small ‘sacrifices’ of self in order to work together. When that feeling of being restricted prompts people to distance themselves from others instead of reaching out in curiosity, then the circle of interdependence gets broken.
Now is the time for me to practice genuine hospitality, to give others the benefit of the doubt. I need to trust they have the same goals even if they approach the situation differently. I need to appreciate being needed and not run from the demands that makes on me. I need to make strengthening that interconnectedness my service. I need to open myself and extend that hospitality to others.
I’ve been feeling a bit stretched lately, running from one meeting to another. Perhaps you can relate? Now, there’s…time, real time, nothing to do, a requirement, in fact, to do nothing. I’ve been taking a breather finishing projects I’ve put off, including house cleaning, and enjoying the refreshing pace of life. It’s not the life I’ve made, but the life I need to live to be comfortable, healthy, engaged. It’s been a time of life, not for money, but for…life.
I’ve been in a transition, a rather fuzzy transition. Now it’s gotten fuzzier, but more interesting. It’s very clear how far from living versus being driven I’d gotten myself. Now I’m reconnecting with old passions and interests and seeing a possible new connection and interdependence of my various parts that I’m going to take the time to explore.
We’ve come such a long way from being in harmony with nature – if we were ever in harmony with nature. Maybe now that the fear of survival from starvation is diminished and the fear of sickness and possible death is striding around nature, with it’s creativity, fertility, and beauty is calling out to be recognized.
I’m a cancer victor and I’m watching a series of reflections by 19 other folks who have chosen to deal with cancer in their own way, as I did, and I’m struck by the love of life they each express. Living is not about existence it is about the love, the joy of LIFE! That’s what it’s all about. Somewhere I seem to have lost some of that. I’ve always done only what I enjoyed doing, but lately I’ve become overwhelmed, burdened by loved projects, but burdened never the less.
For the next four weeks I’m going to explore the values that Nature lives by and how I intend to bring them into robust actuality in my own life.
Working with a coach in these kinds of times can be helpful!
Are you getting depressed by the world? Is the state of our politics driving to to hide or fight everything? Do you really believe that the 'end is nigh"? then I'd suggest that you take another look at what's REALLY happening in the world.
To do this you have to get outside of your box and READ different things. I'd start with books. Hunter Lovins - a person I've followed for decades, has a new book, A Finer Future. You can hear her on a podcast interview done by Y on Earth. To dramatically change your understanding of 'how the world works' try Donut Economics by Kate Raworth.
The angst we are feeling is because what we thought we knew is proving untrustworthy. Things are NOT going as 'planned' or as we think they 'should'. Why? Because the world has changed - it had to because it wasn't working . We have made these changes as we expanded our capacity to use nature's resources, as we learned from each other at a pace that never been seen before via the internet, and as we became interconnected globally through trade on a scale that is also unprecedented. We need to go with the flow or we will be left behind!
It's one thing to have the technology - we have the technology to make the needed changes, it's quite another to get people to actually change! I can't help everybody, but I CAN help you! We can work together to rethink how we see ourselves, work with other others, and organize our businesses. I can help YOU do all of these. Change isn't easy, but it's not as hard as you think, either.